1-day intensive workshop for Men: The conflicting demand of the Masculine

The central demand placed on men today is a contradiction:

Be immovable and confident while also being open, feeling, receptive, and emotionally available.

Most men feel the pull of both poles and end up confused, frustrated, or shut down.

In this 1-day intensive workshop, you’ll learn the skills and technology to build the capacity to hold the pole of unwavering confidence and the pole of being sensitive, compassionate, and emotionally available and receptive . You will leave the workshop feeling more self-assured, more connected to yourself, to other men, and to your current or future partners.

You will have expanded your capacity to think clearly and be present in demanding and intense or uncomfortable situations.

The day can open something powerful, but it’s not a magic pill. This workshop is not for you if

• You want quick fixes or techniques without doing the inner work.

• You’re unwilling to look at your own patterns and reactions.

• You’re expecting others to change before you do.

• You’re not willing to participate in exercises with sincerity.

• You prefer staying comfortable rather than being challenged.

What you will experience

Through exercises and practices, you will train your nervous system to be comfortable with the demand, so that you can stay present and conscious in high-intensity situations.

We explore your triggers

First, we will explore what usually has us distracted from being fully present in any relationship: our triggers. The parts of our personality that have us feel inferior, superior, angry, sad, or irritated, in situations and relationships.

We expand your capacity Second, we will practice expanding our capacity to hold ourselves when we experience getting triggered. 

We strengthen the poles

Third, we will practice strengthening the poles of unwavering confidence and emotional receptivity .

During the day there will be ample time for Q&A with Anders.

Practically

• 1-day intensive workshop for men

• The workshop is approximately 7 hours long, including a 1-hour lunch break (lunch not included), and other smaller breaks.

• Water, tea, and snacks will be provided.

• The venue, once confirmed, will be centrally located in Copenhagen and accessible by public transport, bike or car.

• The workshop will be held in English (Anders speaks Danish as well)

• Space is limited to 14 people

  
  

You will receive an email with additional practical information prior to the workshop.

About Anders

Anders Holten is a relationship, purpose, and men’s leadership coach known for his direct, grounded approach. His work blends nervous-system training, interpersonal dynamics, and practical embodiment practices to help men show up with clarity, presence, and emotional range in relationships and high-pressure situations. He has guided men’s groups, workshops, and 1:1 clients across Europe and the US, with a focus on truth, responsibility, and relational depth.

Appraisal for Anders

“Anders, thank you! With your assistance, I was able to identify, and move to the side, the invisible obstacles that were preventing me from feelings of confidence and emotional health. It was with your guidance that I rediscovered the confidence that was there all along. It was a pleasure to work with you. You heard me and you made a difference.”

Craig F., Pharmacist, Vermont, USA

“When we first started working together I wasn’t really sure what I wanted to do with myself or my life in general. I felt as if I lacked direction and purpose. I kept looking for something new or different in my life. Also, I was looking for a meaningful relationship. As we continued to work together, I found that exact relationship that I was looking for. I also learned that being satisfied with what is in my life is enough. I know that when the time is right for me to find something new, I will do that. I am very satisfied with where I am in my life and I appreciate all of your help.”

Joe T., Poker Player, Las Vegas, USA

"I have enjoyed participating in Anders's men's group evenings as well as a workshop where Anders was the facilitator, with topics/themes for personal development. Anders is good at communicating the various topics/themes we work with and with exercises that are relevant to us getting new insights.

The workshop I attended gave me self-insights, being better to feel myself, and keeping a balance/control in my being. Anders has commitment and energy to mentoring a group of men." Henrik L, Graphic Designer, Copenhagen

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